The kick of girl-girl porno lies partly in its catering to the fantasy of violating the privacy of lesbians, of making even sex between women - something quite threatening to male sexual prerogative-serve a male agenda; the other, tacit element is the kick of seeing “normal”girls made to emulate homosexual activity. The assumption is that homosexual activity is repulsive, and that therefore the models are disgusted by it and endure it under some compulsion - whether the compulsion of money, force of personality, or physical threat.
Pictures of real lesbians - at Gay Pride rallies, for example - kissing, necking and flirting are often considered disgusting and ugly by the same men who enjoy girl-girl fantasy porn.
Lesbians in the public world who kiss, hold hands, or otherwise behave like a sexually intimate couple (in a restaurant, in a park, at a movie) have often been subjected to abuse, threats and violence from hetero men - the same men who constitute the market for ever-popular girl-girl porno.
Catharine A. Mackinnon, Elizabeth A. Long Professor of Law at the University of Michigan, (edited by Christine Stark & Rebecca Whisnant), “Not For Sale: Feminists Resisting Prostitution & Pornography.” 2004. (p. 198)
Your feelings are valid simply because you feel them.
…But what bothered me the most was the idea that a character could only be queer if it would somehow “serve the story.” What the hell does that even mean? You would never say that to a real person. A show shouldn’t have queer characters because they “serve the storyline.” A show should have queer characters because some people are queer.
The fact is that it would make sense for Dean Winchester to be bisexual. This is based on the collective decisions of the writers, actors, producers, directors, and editors over the past eight seasons. This isn’t about some fan fantasy that Dean is into guys. This is about choices that have been made, interpretations that have been allowed to develop, and the time that has been put into both.
Queer people deserve to see representations of themselves on TV. Dean Winchester, a masculine guy in his mid-30s who loves whiskey, classic rock, and his ‘67 Chevy Impala; who was raised by an abusive father; who has been hunting since he could hold a shotgun; and who is a lead character on an urban fantasy drama popular with a male audience would be such an important and ground-breaking representation of bisexuality on TV.
repeat after me:
- virginity is a social construct
- you don’t lose your virginity
- there’s nothing valuable or precious about virginity, it’s an imaginary concept
- virginity is inherently heterocentric
- your worth is not defined by whether or not you’ve had a dick inside you
- what you define as sex is up to you, you get to decide how many people you’ve had sex with
- the end